Saving your marriage after infidelity.
This staggering new book, released July 9th by Focus on the Family, bravely, with honesty and humor, recounts every agonizing, heart wrenching, but ultimately uplifting and God inspired moment that Tina faced dealing with the worst kind of betrayal imaginable.
Ron Konkin’s mother is dying. This is happening. His slightly cold, intensely focused wife Tina does what she always does – push him away and implore him to “just power through it.” Even going so far as to tell him that they will all survive, except his mother of course. Tina’s directness and business-like manner of trying to help her husband deal with his devastating grief only serves to push Ron further away…and, unfortunately, right into the open, nurturing arms of Tina’s close friend.
That’s correct, the world renowned “marriage expert” is having an affair with his wife’s close friend. As you might imagine, once Tina finds out the facade of their marriage collapses under the weight of the neglect and infidelity as both are forced to confront their worst nightmare.
Using this devastating situation to level both Ron and Tina, God then proceeds to not only REVEAL the hardness of their hearts but gives them a blueprint to REWRITE their marriage beyond anything they could have ever hoped for. But it doesn’t end there, God puts them on a journey to RENEW their relationship and makes it better than it ever was before. Their ministry was rebuilt on a solid foundation and their story has literally saved hundreds of marriages around the globe, from celebrities to billionaires to CEO’s to the every day couple, who’s lives and marriages have been saved and forever changed.
From the moment Tina is confronted with the undeniable evidence of the affair and, in turn confronts her husband, through the depths of despair that bring about Tina’s “mirror moment” where God patiently, but forcefully shows her the part she played that led to this devastating mess.
This book offers a rare and powerful, behind the curtain look at how this high-profile couple faced down obstacle after obstacle, head on and with no safety net. We are privy to all the ugly crying and dark cold nights alone with only God and their fears to keep each of them company.
We are afforded an intimate look at a marriage on the brink that can only survive through God’s amazing grace, a couples undying desire to never give up on the marriage or each other, even when told to by their most trusted spiritual advisors and counselors to do just that, and ultimately the undying commitment to their promise before men and God to love each other through thick and thin.
We read, we hope and ultimately, we see God’s love and mercy show up in a big way.
When their deepest fears say run, God says wait. When most would take the path of least resistance, cut their losses and move on, Tina chose instead to stay and fight for her marriage.
“How God Used The Other Woman” unpacks a gripping true story of how God worked one miracle after another to sort through the chaff of this damaged, possibly beyond repair, marriage to not only repair and strengthen it, but to grow a ministry that continues to save countless marriages, as Tina says “one broken-heart at a time,” decades later.
This is a story of failure and shame, but more importantly a story of redemption and healing and perfect example of the scripture found in genesis 50:20:
“You plotted evil against me, but God turned it into good, in order to preserve the lives of many people who are alive today because of what happened.”
With one slight change: the many MARRIAGES that are alive today because of what happened.
