New Phase in Life

Marriage is a Journey of Phases

Maybe your kids are finally out of the house. Maybe you’ve just retired. Maybe one of you has had a major change in health status. Marriage is about the journey through all phases of life. The skills and lifestyle that works in one phase may not work in your new phase. These transition phases can be hard on a marriage.  You may be thrilled as you look forward to a second honeymoon season with your spouse, or you may be asking yourself, “Without the kids, do we have enough to hold us together?”

Many couples attempting a second honeymoon realize that their marriage was moved to the backburner years ago, and they’re daunted by the consequences. After many years of putting children first, you may be emotionally drained and feeling disconnected from your spouse.  All those things you’ve been postponing – the issues that are deprioritized when you have kids or another major issue – are now waiting for you.

Your reaction might be to “get busy” in other ways to avoid facing the relational challenges that are now staring you in the face, but you know that won’t fix what really needs to be fixed.

Sadly, the statistics show a surge in divorce among couples age 50 and up, and experts say the trigger is often when their adult children leave home.  People assume that when spouses grow apart, it’s usually because of some big conflict or major issue, but that’s not necessarily true. Sometimes it’s just a slow and steady drift, and a gradual loss of intimacy. Maybe you’re being met with the reality that years spent raising kids has turned you into very different people than you were when you first got married.  Maybe you’re discovering you have little in common, and the children were the glue holding you together, and you struggle with only relating to each other in your roles as mom and dad and not as romantic partners and best friends.

One of the biggest predictors of divorce is withdrawal, so don’t pull away. It’s time to rekindle that connection and we can help you! Hope is far from lost. For over 20 years, we have been helping couples reconnect after drifting apart and equipping them to overcome their barriers to happiness.

Life may have changed your priorities in the past, but now is the time to prioritize your relationship and continue the lifelong marriage you dreamed of back when you said “I do”.

Common reasons couples attend

Are you really hearing each other?

Good communication is the cornerstone to building and maintaining any healthy relationship. It creates a sense of intimacy that can be shared throughout a lifetime, and it’s nearly impossible for any relationship to thrive without it. Whether you would like to improve your conflict resolution or experience a deeper connection with your spouse, you can achieve it through communication. Thankfully, it can be learned!

We can help you develop your communication skills so that you and your partner can establish and sustain a relationship filled with closeness, love, and respect.

Do you miss that special closeness?

That spark. That connection. That desire to be close. Maybe it came easy when you first started dating or were newlyweds, but now it’s like there’s a space between you, and you’re not sure how to get through it. Maybe your needs for physical intimacy aren’t being met, or maybe it’s emotional intimacy you crave. If the stresses and demands of life have left no time for maintaining your connection, there are many ways to rekindle and sustain a passionate relationship.

We help couples rediscover their connection with each other, and recapture intimacy in their relationship. We can help you.

How well do you know yourself?

There is no one else quite like you. You are a unique individual who has been developing over time and through all your life experiences. Your mix of hopes, dreams, fears, quirks, habits, personality is unmatched… but have you really taken the time to really get to know and understand yourself? Do you ever find yourself asking why you behave a certain way? Focusing internally to increase self-awareness will help you understand what shapes your perspective, why you react as you do, and why other people “just don’t get it” when something seems so clear to you. Understanding yourself will revolutionize your behavior and relationships will others, and we can help you!

We will guide you through a process where you and your spouse ill come understand yourselves individually, understand each other, and learn how to more effectively grow together throughout life.

Can I feel happy and whole again?

Uncertainty. Fear of abandonment. Overreacting. These are just a few of the possible issues that can grow out of a history of emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can be just as serious as any other type of abuse, triggering anxiety, depression, or even post-traumatic stress disorders. Whether we bring this baggage into our current relationship or have recently encountered it, the kind of emotional climate can slowly squeeze the life out of any relationship. But the outlook doesn’t have to be grim: there is hope.

We can help you find healing from emotional abuse, break the painful patterns that have resulted, and learn to set boundaries to prevent it from happening in the future.

Will I always hurt like this?

Life can be absolutely beautiful, but very few of us make it through without some scrapes and bruises along the way. Whether you were hurt in a prior relationship, forced to live with unfulfilled needs, or life threw you a curveball from which you can’t seem to recover, you might be trying to get through with the pain of an open wound. You might have a burden that you carry the weight of daily. Maybe it’s something that you’ve never admitted to another person, or even to yourself. Whatever it was that wounded you, you don’t have to walk through life this way.

We can help you identify the root causes of what’s holding you down, and guide you through a healing process to reclaim the vibrant and fulfilling life that you desire.

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Rob & Melissa Gutierrez

We are a blended family that struggled seeing eye to eye on parenting, money and communication. After several bouts of counseling, off and on with our pastors and professional counselors, our marriage seemed hopeless. We were both exhausted from fighting, and not speaking. The day before our 8th anniversary in 2013 we separated for the Continue Reading

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